Reflections on ALMOST being 30: While Single & Childless

At 29 years young I still get asked "why are you not married"? or "Why don't you have children"? sometimes I get offended other times I brush it off, but my simple answer is I simple am not in the mental mind space for a child or a marriage. We as young adults are still trying to find ourselves and also we are not trying to "settle". Settling for me means unwilling to let go of a less-than-happy relationship because it seems better than nothing. I myself don't see myself settling, I want to be genuinely happy and that should be the mindset of anyone in life that are being asked these two questions

When I was younger I used to say "I will not have children or get married before 30." Now that I'm older I still have the same mindset and sticking to it, but I also have a thing for knowing what I want out of life and the characteristics I want in my partner and I refuse to just settle with anybody. This is another reason I don't allow second chances in my life and that itself goes for family and friends, but that's something for another blog I will be writing for you guys :) 

Not everyone's life goal is to get married and have children and that is absolutely OKAY! your goal in life should be anything that makes you happy and if that is not getting married or having children you shouldn't feel bad for you wanting to live your life without. I myself don't see myself getting married, but I do see myself with a lifelong partner who is loyal, consistent, family oriented, religious, money intellectual and all about me. Yes I see children in my life, and although there is never the right time there is the right time for me, I see myself in a financial place, and good mental space for my children so they can be my sole priority and we live life with no worries.

Infertility

Aside from all the questions people get asked why they don't have children people tend to not realize that person may be infertile and simply can't have children and not by choice. Women are sometimes infertile and it can be the cause of many reasons, some women are even born infertile and can't control such as: Problems with the uterus, Problems with fallopian tubes, Problems with ovulation, and Problems with egg number and quality.

I myself have problems ovulation because of my diagnosis of Hypothyroidism. Hyperthyroidism is a condition in which the thyroid gland doesn't produce enough thyroid hormones, I was diagnosed about 3 years ago and its a hard diagnosis to deal with if you don't have the right dosage of the medication you have to take which would be Levothyroxine. This diagnosis does not cause infertility on my part, it just makes me HARDER to get pregnant, but not impossible and when that time comes for me to have children I will be more than ready to start my journey with all the resources I have.

Women with fertility issues I know it can sometimes be a pain when people ask you those mind boggling questions and you yourself want to be able to carry a child and feel them in your belly, but its not impossible depending on your fertility problem and you should consult your primary doctor and/or OBYN for help with these issues.

Does life get lonely? YES! absolutely, but when you are content with your own self space you don't feel as lonely and you get to brainstorm exactly what you want out of life. My advice is to never simple settle for just anybody or anything when you know exactly what you deserve. It isn't wrong to have guidelines set in your life because its what YOU want, This blog spoke to me on many levels because I myself am single and childless and I'm not because no one wants me I'm single because its my choice to choose what I want in life and I get to choose who I want to be with.

I hope my blog continues to spread awareness about different topics so we all can get a grasp on life and understand that the questions people ask us or the opinions they form about us is not US, and we must live our life for ourselves and no one else. One last thing to leave you with is to NEVER SETTLE, you are the prize and you deserve all the happiness and glory it has to offer.